3 Reasons Why Rejections are Good For You

Reasons why rejections are good for youBeing rejected sucks. We’ve all been there whether we applied for a job or met someone we thought would be our Prince Charming.

I lost count how many times I’ve been rejected over the past few years. Every time when an email from a prospective employer landed in my inbox and started with words ‘Thank you for attending the interview. Unfortunately you haven’t been selected…’, I would feel tears coming to my eyes. I cried and wondered why it happened to me again. Was I not good enough for the role? Didn’t they like my answers? Was it the way I dressed?

Similarly, when I started dating someone and they decided to ghost me after a few dates, I blamed myself. I felt insecure. I overanalysed each text message and conversation I had with that person and tried to understand what I did wrong.

Now, when I’m 30, I’ve realised that rejections aren’t that bad. Yes, they’re still painful but in their own way, they’re good for us. *What? I hear you screaming.* Well, here is what I’ve learnt so far.

“It’s not you, it’s them”

Yes, you’ve got rejected but it doesn’t change who you are. Don’t blame yourself. Stand tall and remember that you’re a great person. Think about what you’ve accomplished so far. Someone didn’t want you but it’s ok. It’s their loss not yours.

Something wasn’t meant to be for you 

I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Don’t give up! Sometimes we have to get through the worst to get to the best.

Reasons why rejections are good for youIt’s your chance to grow 

Don’t see rejection as a bad thing. Did your interviewer give you any feedback? Use it. Explore different paths. Take a break from dating to gain a new perspective (I’m on one right now. It really helps). Take a course to gain new skills, etc. Everything will work out in the end.

How do you handle rejections? I’d love to hear your thoughts. 

  • I am glad to hear you think the same.

  • Rejection always help us a new perspective on things.

  • Yes!

  • Thanks Kris

  • Great post!

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  • Totally wise words love. This post is perfect! When one door closes, another one opens and you are free to explore new opportunities.
    S
    Grey Canvas

  • You have such a great positive perspective that will get you far! I think for me the biggest lesson rejection teaches me is how to improve myself for next time. Rejection then becomes an opportunity for growth rather than negativity 🙂

    Adrianna | http://mimamochi.com/

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    Totally agree, dear!!! I’ve always felt the same about rejections: not something bad for you, but a lesson and maybe, in some case, a true lucky strike!
    Unforrtunately in the most cases you can see it only after few time, but once you know it, it’s forever! 😉
    XO
    S
    https://s-fashion-avenue.blogspot.it/

  • 🙂

  • Thanks

  • Exactly.

  • I used to be the same.

  • I think they are a sign that something better is about to happen.

  • So true! I feel the same way about rejections; these days I see them as a guide from the universe, rather than something I should torture myself with. Great post xx

  • I used to beat myself up when guys ditched me after the first date too. Over analyzing everything it is an awful feeling.
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

  • Lovely. Sometimes we think rejection is a bad thing but most of the times we are actually destined for something better.

    xo | Cindy Elena
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  • Great sharing dear….
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  • Fantastic post! I totally agree with your words! The 3rd tip is my favourite and the most important thing 🙂

    xoxo dear ❤
    Melania | mimalditadulzura.com

  • We need to remember that something better is just round the corner.

  • Thanks Cvetina

  • Thank you

  • Thanks Monica

  • Definitely

  • Thanks Gemma

  • Thanks Patricia

  • We need to remember that something better is round the corner.

  • Wise words! Totally agree with you, rejection really can help us grow in so many different ways. It’s true what they say – ”when one door closes, another door opens”.

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

  • 🙂

  • Rejection is not pleasant but I think we need to be positive and learn from the experience.

  • The job for you is out there. Stay positive 🙂

  • Thanks Cielo

  • Thanks Ruby

  • 🙂

  • Thanks Bernie

  • Thank you so much Jalisa. I agree, we often focus too much on pleasing people who just don’t like us for no apparent reasons. I think it’s important to surround yourself with positive people and see everything as a new beginning.

  • It’s great to hear you found a fab new place to live 🙂

  • Thank you so much Ashley.

  • Thanks Anika. I think it’s important to look for positive things. I know from experience it’s not always easy.

  • It truly allows us to see things from a different perspective.

  • Thanks Ana

  • Thanks Andreea

  • Very well put together article! Rejection can be tough at first, but when thinking of the situation later, we will definitely see why we got rejected. Have a lovely day! xx

    Andreea,
    http://couturezilla.com/

  • Ana Sofia

    Really nice post! I think the same way as you, it really makes us grow!
    xo
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  • Every experience is a lesson! I totally agree with your points in this post. Rejection helps you learn from any mistakes and move forward!

    Best,
    Christina
    Looks by Lau

  • Lovely post, especially the point of it being your change to grow! Love how something negative can be spun into a positive opportunity!

    Anika xo | anikamay.co.uk

  • I always take it as it wasn’t meant to be, my friends and I were set on a house, ready to put a deposit down before we were told it had quickly been snapped up! Our house hunt had been so disastrous and we had finally round a decent house. We were sp gutted back then but recently found an even better place!

    Leah x
    http://www.leahmarriott.co.uk

  • You’ve shared some really great motivational tips and points here, girlie. I think it’s our human nature to want to be accepted and when we feel we aren’t we shut down and can mentally and emotionally pick ourselves apart. I love that you mention that it’s not always us. I’ve read somewhere that 10% of all people we’ll ever meet won’t like us for no reason at all. We like to focus on that 10% a bit too much, without truly embracing the fact that 90% love us! Thanks for sharing, beauty, and I hope you’re having a great week so far!

    XO,

    Jalisa
    http://www.thestylecontour.com

  • Totally agree and sometimes it can also be you were over qualified. Thanks for sharing.

    Bernie, xx
    The Style Fanatic

  • Adriana R.

    I agree! This is so nice <3
    The Fancy Cats

  • completely agree! beautiful words!

    Ruby x
    rubys-eyes.blogspot.com

  • Totally agree. Great post! =)

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • I so needed this today – I got an email rejecting me from a job that I really wanted. Thank you!

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

  • Carina Vardie

    I always try to learn something from it and grow, though it can be disappointing.

    xo
    http://www.carinavardie.com

  • I never thought of it that way. Thanks for sharing!

    xx Jennifer
    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  • Thanks for this post! Rejection is not an easy thing for all of us, but it’s part our everyone’s life and like you said I believe that some things are just not meant to be.

    Nathalie
    http://www.nathalie-alexandra.blogspot.com

  • Beautiful post!!
    Rejection is part of growing, building strengths and resilience! 😀
    kiss
    xx

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  • Great positive post! Gemma x
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

  • I definitely think rejection is part of our character building, it also shows us we aren’t going to be liked by everyone and to accept that.

    Raindrops of Sapphire

  • Mes Voyages à Paris

    What a lovely post!! Thanks for this tips!!
    xx
    Mónica Sors
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  • Rosanna Briguglio

    What a great positive way of looking at things!
    Have a lovely day 🙂
    Rosanna x
    http://rosesrooftop.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Such a nice post! Thanks for sharing!
    xx
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